How To Choose Happiness
Happiness is such an abstract concept and I have always found it interesting that the Declaration of Independence never said we have the right to happiness, just the pursuit of it. This pursuit can be incredibly rewarding but also downright frustrating and I think one of the most important things to realize about happiness is that it’s different for everyone. My perspective is different from my husband’s, from my mom’s, from yours. If we can learn how to change our mindset, happiness isn’t so unattainable. Now don’t get me wrong, NOTHING is easy about changing your mindset. Choosing to notice the good in each situation, being grateful for what you have, and recognizing your “wins” for each day is one of the hardest things I think that you can do. And it’s not a single event, happiness is a decision you make every moment, every day. So yes, it’s hard but how empowering is that? You have the opportunity to give each day, each event, the meaning that you want. You really do have the power to create your happiness!
For example, when someone cuts you off while you’re driving home, that single event really doesn’t have a particular meaning. It’s not necessarily good, it’s not necessarily bad. But say you get angry at the situation, you yell and scream. Now you’re upset and you’ve elevated your blood pressure slightly. Your body has most likely released some of your stress hormones which can affect many different body functions including increasing fat storing because it’s gearing up to “fight or flight” and it needs the energy. You have chosen to make this a bad event and you may feel the effects of it for the rest of the night, effecting how you interact with your family and even how you sleep that night.
Now say that you didn’t react to the other car at all. You shrugged your shoulders, shook it off, and were thankful that at least you left enough distance between you so that you didn’t get hit. You are calm. Your blood pressure doesn’t elevate, your body doesn’t release stress hormones, and you turn up the music because your favorite song just came on the radio. When you get home you can enjoy time with your family and get a great night’s sleep. Two very different scenarios with two very different endings, all because of a choice you made in your mind. And I know this seems silly but these small choices and changes really add up. Image making the choice to not turn a situation into a bad experience – with a rough commute, a nosy co-worker, or a difficult neighbor. Accepting that although something doesn’t go exactly the way you planned, doesn’t mean that its bad or wrong. So as you go through your day today and these events come up, choose the meaning and make it positive, then comment below to let me know about your wins!
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